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Revisited – Recovery is a Family Affair With Stefan Bate
Our guest today in this revisited episode of Beyond the Balance Sheet is Stefan Bate, Chief Clinical Officer at Jaywalker Lodge. Stefan shares his mission as he helps men who have had previous treatment experiences. Stefan reflects on his own recovery journey and the blessings that he has experienced since graduating from Jaywalker and entering the field of psychology. Arden and Stefan discuss the spiritual and emotional elements of hitting rock bottom versus circumstantial consequences. They also dig into the perceptions faced by affluent families in treatment and how Stefan helps families set healthy expectations for treatment.
IN THIS EPISODE: [01:33] Stefan’s outlook on his recovery and how recovery changed his career trajectory.
[05:56] When Stefan finally hit rock bottom.
[09:54] Triggering events that happen to people that push them to be all-in for recovery.
[16:04] What’s missing in the psychology field for affluent families?
[22:23] What happens when a family lacks basic education about recovery and unrealistic expectations?
[26:10] Stefan’s advice to someone who is in an active addiction and considering recovery.
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Oftentimes someone’s rock bottom is not circumstantial or due to material consequences. It’s really an emotional and spiritual rock bottom.
Jaywalker Lodge offers niche treatment for men that have had multiple previous treatment attempts. Men are usually around the age of 28 and have been to three to seven previous treatment experiences.
Often when you scratch the surface of entitlement it is really a learned helplessness and a deep set of shame beliefs. These men question their abilities and capabilities in the world and don’t think that they’re going to be able to take care of themselves.
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Bio: Stefan Bate, Chief Clinical Officer at Jaywalker Lodge Stefan grew up in Northern Iowa before moving to Colorado to study psychology at the University of Denver. Post college, Stefan worked in the banking industry for several years before starting his own recovery journey in 2007. Stefan is a graduate of Jaywalker Lodge, and it was during his own treatment experience that he became interested in pursuing a career in addiction treatment. Stefan holds a Master’s Degree in Applied Psychology from Regis University and is a Licensed Addiction Counselor in the state of Colorado. Stefan has wide-ranging experience in the field of addiction recovery including working as a recovery coach, therapist, and program director. Stefan also has extensive experience designing and implementing addiction treatment and recovery support programs. Helping people engage in effective treatment, building a solid foundation for real world recovery and helping clients’ participate in a life of true fulfillment are his specialties. In his free time, Stefan enjoys playing in the natural beauty of the Rocky Mountains and spending quality time with his wife and their two children.